Ladies: A Sweeter Marriage is in Your Hands

webphoto7I am sitting here on a cloudy, rainy afternoon, enjoying the last of my coffee.  It will soon be time to jump up from here and start cooking supper.  But my mind can’t stop thinking about a sweet exchange between my dear husband and me today.

We have just finished celebrating the Christmas holidays . . . it was wonderful, relaxing, and busy all at the same time!  Somehow, in the shuffle of all that was going on, we failed to give each other our Christmas cards (something we do every year).  We usually open them when we’re alone, and that is not very often! 🙂

So our kids went back to their homeschool tutorial today, and we remembered our cards!  We opened them, and fell into a sweet embrace.  There is just nothing like being totally loved by your husband!  Here are the words in the card that made my day:

“You’re the very best of everything good in my life.  I love you so much.”

Wow!  What powerful words!  Me, the best thing in his busy world?  Me, the center of it?  Those words lifted me up, and I have been so happy all day . . . just because I heard those words.  I just want that kind of sweetness and joy to fill my home all the time!  Do I think that is possible?  Yes, I really do.  I think it is entirely possible to have a home filled with love, peace, and joy . . . but a lot of it depends on my words.  I must be willing to speak encouraging WORDS into the ears of my husband.

Listen . . .I have not always been good at this.  In fact, I have fallen on my face many times.  For example, my husband has had to travel a lot with his work.  There have been times I just didn’t think I could go another step as a “single parent.”  I let him know about it.  Yet what did I accomplish?  Very little, my friend.  What could he do?  I should have been crying out to the Lord over it, not bringing him down about it.  I regret how I handled many situations.  But slowly, I learned.  And I am still learning.

The Bible is full of beautiful, practical advice about this.  Here are some verses and tips that I need, and I hope you can use, too.

1- Always encourage your husband.  He is dear, precious, and likely works very hard for you and your family.  Be the one he wants to run to at the end of the day!  Give him pleasant words!

“Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.” (Proverbs 16:24)

2- Respect your husband in every way, but especially with your words.  Respect him publicly, too.  Live in such a way that you demonstrate how happy you are to be his wife!

“Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)

3- Cater to him and his needs.  That’s right!  I said cater to him.  Never say to him, “Get it yourself.”  Rather, ask what you can do for him.  You are his helpmeet.  You should take joy in assisting him.  Don’t hesitate to make his favorite meals, iron his clothes, or do special things for him.  He will notice, and I dare say he will feel wonderful by you!

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” (Proverbs 31:10-12)

I love my husband so much . . . I could go on and on about how wonderful and amazing he is.  I still am in awe, after 21 years, that he picked me.  So many girls missed out.  Anyway, I prayed a lot for Mr. Right and the Lord had great, great mercy upon me!  I have a lot to hold on to, and don’t think that the enemy won’t try to get in there and take it away.  We must guard our hearts, our marriages, and certainly, our tongues.

So don’t hesitate to treat your man like a king.  Tell him how you love him.  Tell him how good he is at all things that pertain to him.  Tell your children how blessed they are.  And watch the Lord bless your home for it!!!

“He blesseth the habitation of the just.” (Proverbs 3:33)

~Johnna